Everyone grieves. But not everyone grieves with hope. Compassionate community makes all the difference.
At our core we’re about women supporting women. We aren't experts. We aren't know-it-alls. But we are gracious, kind, and supportive companions.
Our commitment is to gather a group of women willing to serve one another in and through our grief after pregnancy loss. “Stronger together” is more than a catch phrase; it's a way of being in the world. Sisterhood gives us hope.
When I experienced my first miscarriage I had never felt so isolated, confused, and angry. I had also never felt such sadness—deep, deep sorrow.
In the aftermath of my loss, I scoured the internet for stories and swallowed them like medication. I needed to read the experiences of others in order to know I wasn't alone. Reading them made me feel validated in my own experiences. It didn't take away my grief, but it affirmed the dignity of it.
Although there are a myriad of resources available to you here, at the heart of Our Scarlett Stories is the desire to create a spacious place to read and share stories. Stories—those of others as well as our own—help us heal if we're willing to digest and absorb them and let them transform us.
It's my conviction there are two essential components to grieving with hope: the presence and promise of Jesus and the compassionate support of a gracious community. It's within this context you'll experience your deepest healing. And it's why we exist.
• The most gracious pregnancy loss support group on the internet. (Who says? Well, we do. Our members are simply incredible.)
• A constantly-growing Resource Library especially curated for your grief journey.
• A place to share your story and talk about your baby.
• Letters to a Grieving Mom — a downloadable audio series to help you navigate seven key milestone days after pregnancy loss.
• Downloadable scripture coloring sheets for mindful meditation.
• Group video calls for Adriel's "ask me anything" Q & A sessions and monthly guest interviews by experts in their field.
We also offer a few premium features such as our 8-week Deep Dives (peer support groups) and our Story Circle to help you process your grief through writing your own "Scarlett Story." (Find out more about these below.)
Adriel Booker is a speaker, advocate, storyteller, and community builder. For nearly twenty years she’s given her life to help people discover the intersection of God’s goodness, their God-given identity, and how they’re uniquely wired to love their neighbor well. She believes storytelling, beauty, and the grace of God will change the world. Along with leading Our Scarlett Stories, Adriel also leads Tethered—a space to more broadly explore grief and spirituality through more than 40 video sessions and resources. (Tethered is not specific to pregnancy loss grief.) Adriel, her husband, and three sons live in Sydney, Australia. Find out more at @adrielbooker or www.adrielbooker.com.
“Adriel writes with the authority of one who has endured suffering. She is a gifted teacher and a brave leader into the darker realms of faith. As she discusses the transformation that grief brings into our lives, she also acknowledges and then shoos away blame, comparison, false guilt, shame, and isolation. Though it’s been years since I’ve experienced miscarriage, this book helped me remember and even shined a light into other areas of suffering that I hardly know how to address.”
—Amber C. Haines, author of Wild in the Hollow, from the foreword of Grace Like Scarlett
Maximize your membership by purchasing your own copy of Adriel's book, Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss, so you can go deeper with our Deep Dive grief support groups.
Though one in four pregnancies ends in loss, miscarriage is shrouded in such secrecy and stigma that the woman who experiences it often feels deeply isolated, unsure how to process her grief. Her body seems to have betrayed her. Her confidence in the goodness of God is rattled. Her loved ones don't know what to say. Her heart is broken. She may feel guilty, ashamed, angry, depressed, confused, or alone.
With vulnerability and tenderness, Adriel Booker shares intimate stories about her experiences with miscarriage to help you navigate your own grief and know you aren't alone. She tackles complex questions about faith, suffering, and God's will with sensitivity and clarity, devoid of religious clichés or pat answers. Ultimately, Adriel invites you to a wide-open place of grace, honesty, and genuine hope as you discover a redemption story unfolding in the shadows of your loss. She also includes practical resources for ways to help guide children through grief, advice on pregnancy after loss, and special sections for dads and loved ones.
Join Adriel and others for one of our Deep Dive grief groups in an eight-week healing journey with other women from Our Scarlett Stories Community. These private subgroups include two live group calls with Adriel, six sessions of video content, an in-depth discussion guide, weekly prayer, and a safe place to talk about your grief journey. (Click on "choose a plan" to see the next Deep Dive intake.)
"I can’t even begin to describe how different I feel since I started the Deep Dive. I know it’s born of so much loss and pain, but I just want to thank you for the incredible gift you are sharing with all of us. It is truly changing lives and I am so grateful." —Deep Dive Participant (June 2020)
Story has the power to heal. Learn to write yours in a private, safe space.
Our Story Circle provides you with access to your free copy of Journaling Our Scarlett Stories by Adriel Booker to serve you as you process your grief and learn how to write your own "Scarlett Story."
Studies have consistently shown that journaling is a powerful way to process your emotions and heal. This guide will help you think through the details of your story and begin to document your experience. Not only will this serve as a way for you to commemorate your baby's life, but will provide you with a beautiful way to honour your grief and deepen your healing.
Should you choose, this process will serve as a spring board to help you shape your story into something you'd also like to share with others—whether privately or publicly. Once you are ready to share your story, Adriel will personally read your final draft and provide feedback or answer questions before you share it.
If you're not yet ready to jump straight into our Story Circle, you can find a sampler of Journaling Our Scarlett Stories here.
Our Scarlett Stories is faith-based community to support women through pregnancy loss. Many of our resources and content contain biblical references and talk about Jesus, but being a Christian is not a prerequisite to join. People of all faiths (or none) are welcome.
“When I experienced the loss of a pregnancy I wanted two things in that place of pain. First, to know that I was not alone in it. Second, to believe there was hope. Adriel Booker offers both in Grace Like Scarlett. I wish I’d had this book years ago.”
—Holley Gerth, bestselling author of Fiercehearted and What Your Heart Needs for the Hard Days
“This powerful book is more than a book. It’s a permission slip to feel what you need to feel. I’ve walked with several friends through their own miscarriages, and I have always wished that there was more that I could offer, do, or say. Grace Like Scarlett is ‘the more.’”
—Jennifer Dukes Lee, author of The Happiness Dare and Love Idol
“Unflinchingly honest, unquestionably authentic, and unashamedly human, Grace Like Scarlett is a must-read for anyone who has or will endure suffering–which is to say, all of us.”
—Seth Haines, author of Coming Clean: A Story of Faith
“My heart has long been crying out for a book like this, and Grace Like Scarlett is a beautiful answer to that prayer. Adriel Booker offers such clear, comforting, and compassionate words to the woman who is walking through deep loss. Not only will she find hope and consolation in these pages but it will feel like she’s found an understanding friend.”
—Lisa Jacobson, Club31Women.com
“Adriel Booker is a midwife and a griefwalker. In Grace Like Scarlett she takes the reader’s hand, walks into the womb of loss, and sits down knee-to-knee with the brokenhearted. See this work if ever you’ve needed someone to go with you, be with you, hold you . . . and give voice to your speechless, aching places. This book is blood, air, food, and friend.”
—Erika Morrison, author of Bandersnatch: An Invitation to Explore Your Unconventional Soul
“Raw, real, and emotionally honest. Grace Like Scarlett is for anyone dealing with the heartbreak of losing a child or the messy and untamable nature of grief. There are few resources for individuals or churches that I have found to be this succinct and powerful–I wholeheartedly recommend it!”
—Ken Wytsma, pastor and author of The Myth of Equality and The Grand Paradox
“Adriel Booker’s Grace Like Scarlett is a raw and challenging look at the impact of miscarriages not only in the life of every woman who has undergone such tragedy but also in communities of faith who seek to care for those who have lost. As a pastor, I find this book offers hope to those in my congregation who have and will walk through this valley. Read it and be ready to give copies to all those who need the encouragement this book provides.”
—Steve Mickel, lead pastor of Westside Church, Bend, Oregon
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